Busy doing nothing

The children seem to be under the impression that as a SAHM I drink tea and watch tv all day. When they get home they ask chirpily if I’ve had a good day but never fail to qualify it with “What have you been doing?” The question sometimes seems like an accusation. I’m not sure if that is due to me being over sensitive or because they really believe that I’m busy doing nothing all day.

This week I have been knocked for six by my continuing cold. Some days I have not even been able to get out of bed. I have been alternatively sweating, shivering and sleeping. At some stages I have been quite delirious and not been able to hold a coherent conversation (no change there, some might say). Strangely though, my complete inactivity this week has lead to a sudden appreciation of what I actually do throughout the day. It would seem that they only notice what you do around the house when you don’t actually do it!

Frustrated by houseworkPhoto by Kristopher Roller on Unsplash

Busy doing nothing

Now that I have actually spent a week busy doing nothing the kids can actually see what my normal ‘nothing’ consists of:

  • hoovering, dusting and cleaning. Every darn day.
  • cooking healthy meals (often with alternatives for differing diets and work schedules)
  • picking up random socks, tablets, chargers, clothing, pens that are scattered around the house (while muttering curses under my breath)
  • replacing toilet rolls. Why are the incapable of putting empty loo rolls in the bin?
  • Washing and ironing. Any thing less than 2 loads a day is a light day in this house
  • Putting the clothes away. It would seem that it’s only when I mess up and put things in the wrong drawer that they realise that their clean clothes don’t magically appear by themselves
  • Arranging calendars, appointments and filling in forms. I am essentially a P.A
  • Ensuring stuff is ready for school. Homework is done, letters signed and returned, pe kits ready etc
  • Project managing the ongoing renovations

 

Of course this list isn’t exhaustive and doesn’t mean that I think that working out of the home moms don’t do the same things. However, it is soul destroying that you spend so long each day doing things for others and they never notice. We made the choice that I would stay at home for many reasons and I don’t regret it. However, I still get frustrated by the total lack of awareness of how much I do. Today I spent an hour washing and cleaning a whole army of Happyland toys. No one will ever know it happened.

If you take anything from this post it would be to go on strike for a week if you are feeling underappreciated. So many things happen around the house that nobody notices, until you don’t do it. Rest assured they will soon notice the lack of clean clothes, clean dishes and freshly cooked meals as soon as they don’t happen!

My Word of the week is Underappreciated

 

Linking in with;
Word of the Week – The Reading Residence
PoCoLo – Life at 139a / Morgan’s Milieu

28 Comments

  1. 29th October 2017 / 1:06 AM

    Hope you’re feeling better now. I was away for 3 months, hubby only really appreciated what I do after I’d been back a week and all of a sudden he could find things again #pocolo

    • Louisa
      Author
      30th October 2017 / 12:34 PM

      I can well believe it!!

  2. 23rd October 2017 / 2:41 PM

    I get it. a mother’s work is done with love ( most of the time) and unacknowledged now! but when your kids have kids they will get it!!

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:28 PM

      I look forward to them being in the same situation with their own children 😉

  3. 18th October 2017 / 1:00 PM

    I’ve been so tempted to write a list of everything I do/keep track of/take care of in the past. There are so many things that I take care of that my family only really notice I do when I stop doing them! x #TheListLinky

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:50 PM

      You should stop doing them more often to help them appreciate how much you do!

  4. 12th October 2017 / 10:28 PM

    I can relate to this – so much of what we do as mums just doesn’t get noticed – unless it doesn’t happen! Hope you are feeling better this week x #WotW

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:29 PM

      Maybe we should have a national mum-strike day to force the issue? 😉

  5. 12th October 2017 / 1:59 PM

    I work part time from home and part time in employment and I swear my daughter thinks I sit around all day doing nothing when I’m home I hope you feel better soon x #pocolo

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:30 PM

      My kids don’t believe me when I say I don’t have the tv on during the day!

  6. 10th October 2017 / 8:44 PM

    Ah it infuriates me when people don’t see that we’ve been trying to keep the place tidy and declutter too. They just see the mess the little ones create and tell you they’re not impressed with your efforts! #WotW

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:48 PM

      It is a thankless task

  7. 9th October 2017 / 10:09 PM

    Ha ha I totally get this I am sure my 2 boys think i just go to the gym, for coffee and play at blogging. I hope you are feeling better I have felt soooo awful this week and at times not with it at all x

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:42 PM

      It’s so much harder to just get on with stuff when you’re poorly, hope you recover quickly

  8. 6th October 2017 / 7:27 PM

    I sometimes think I should go on strike…hehehe
    I hope you feel better soon x

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:41 PM

      You really should do Kim!

  9. 6th October 2017 / 11:21 AM

    Oh yes, I’m sure they think the Housework Fairies come in and do all the cleaning whilst I sit and drink endless cups of coffee! Hope you feel better soon

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:40 PM

      It seems to be quite a widespread belief!

  10. 6th October 2017 / 11:13 AM

    I get the same question. Usually tacked on the end of a blow by blow account of their day. Not that I mind. Really. I work from home, so most of the household chores tend to be done when they are home. They do see me doing it. Not that they always notice! I find vacuuming during their favourite programs gets their attention. I don’t iron and I don’t put their clothes away. Monkeys can do that themselves! No need to strike. If I was you, I’d just leave some of the jobs till they’re home. Then they will appreciate it more. #wotw

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:39 PM

      Waiting so they can see the jobs being done is a very good idea. They will soon realise the fairies don’t do the house work while I go to the spa

  11. 6th October 2017 / 10:53 AM

    would it comfort you to know you are not alone. I wasn’t well for a while recently and the bathrooms got into a terrible state, sadly the only person who noticed or got bothered, was me. So I will carry on cleaning the bathrooms seemingly for my own benefit. Hubby tells me off for doing too much (I’m disabled and have to be careful about burning myself out) but there would soon be complaints if there was nothing to eat off, or with. I swear, until you are responsible for these things you don’t really understand how they appear to get done. I think my mum gave up at one point as I remember all the clean but un-ironed and unfolded washing ended up shoved in the airing cupboard and we had to sort out our own clothes and ironed them. I was so annoyed at the time, but fair play to her. #wotw

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:37 PM

      Well done your Mom! I need to use crutches a lot of the time so it’s especially tiring doing the chores so I can appreciate your dilemma.My husband tells me off too but when he does the ironing he gets distracted and I end up doing it anyway!

  12. 6th October 2017 / 10:52 AM

    I will be striking then! I think you’re absolutely right, it would only be noticed if it didn’t happen. Hope you feel better soon x Thanks for sharing with #WotW

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:34 PM

      I am much better now thanks although will be striking on a regular basis from now on!

  13. 6th October 2017 / 10:14 AM

    I know exactly what you mean, I think we make it look easy so nobody realises how much we actually do. I hope you are staring to feel a little better and that you get a lot more help in future x

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:33 PM

      Thank you. I feel better now and have increased the kids chores to help them see the problem x

  14. 6th October 2017 / 10:00 AM

    It it’s all the little things that add up that.eat away at your time, I can relate to this post so much X #wotw

    • Louisa
      Author
      27th October 2017 / 3:32 PM

      You’re right, 10 mins here, 15 mins here soon adds up to several hours without anyone noticing

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